Extreme, but not acceptable situation and I can't start the work tomorrow morning
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- My bride is pregant.
- She lives 1500 km away from me, in another country, in a low-developed region where the public transport is slow.
- I did not talk with her 3 days long. It was my mistake. She became shocked and now she wants to abort the child.
- I am currently on a train, traveling to her.
- Tomorrow morning I should start the work, as usual. I won't be able to do it. (Now there is sunday evening).
- Very surely, I won't be able to work not at Monday and also not Tuesday.
It is a small company in Germany. I work since some years here, longer than most employee, but it is not a guarantee for that I won't lose my job for that. The company seems above average tolerant for such events, but their patience surely has a limit. And feel I near this limit now.
Being in the IT, I could work also remotely, even on different trains. But it is not the custom of the company, and I not a boss to change that.
How to maximize my chance to not lose my job and to lose the least possible respect by my bosses?
Would it be better if I explain this situation? My this personal problem looks probably quite differently with the eyes of my boss.
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- My bride is pregant.
- She lives 1500 km away from me, in another country, in a low-developed region where the public transport is slow.
- I did not talk with her 3 days long. It was my mistake. She became shocked and now she wants to abort the child.
- I am currently on a train, traveling to her.
- Tomorrow morning I should start the work, as usual. I won't be able to do it. (Now there is sunday evening).
- Very surely, I won't be able to work not at Monday and also not Tuesday.
It is a small company in Germany. I work since some years here, longer than most employee, but it is not a guarantee for that I won't lose my job for that. The company seems above average tolerant for such events, but their patience surely has a limit. And feel I near this limit now.
Being in the IT, I could work also remotely, even on different trains. But it is not the custom of the company, and I not a boss to change that.
How to maximize my chance to not lose my job and to lose the least possible respect by my bosses?
Would it be better if I explain this situation? My this personal problem looks probably quite differently with the eyes of my boss.
germany personal-problems
asked 8 hours ago
Gray SheepGray Sheep
1,75131225
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- My bride is pregant.
- She lives 1500 km away from me, in another country, in a low-developed region where the public transport is slow.
- I did not talk with her 3 days long. It was my mistake. She became shocked and now she wants to abort the child.
- I am currently on a train, traveling to her.
- Tomorrow morning I should start the work, as usual. I won't be able to do it. (Now there is sunday evening).
- Very surely, I won't be able to work not at Monday and also not Tuesday.
It is a small company in Germany. I work since some years here, longer than most employee, but it is not a guarantee for that I won't lose my job for that. The company seems above average tolerant for such events, but their patience surely has a limit. And feel I near this limit now.
Being in the IT, I could work also remotely, even on different trains. But it is not the custom of the company, and I not a boss to change that.
How to maximize my chance to not lose my job and to lose the least possible respect by my bosses?
Would it be better if I explain this situation? My this personal problem looks probably quite differently with the eyes of my boss.
germany personal-problems
asked 8 hours ago
Gray SheepGray Sheep
1,75131225
- My bride is pregant.
- She lives 1500 km away from me, in another country, in a low-developed region where the public transport is slow.
- I did not talk with her 3 days long. It was my mistake. She became shocked and now she wants to abort the child.
- I am currently on a train, traveling to her.
- Tomorrow morning I should start the work, as usual. I won't be able to do it. (Now there is sunday evening).
- Very surely, I won't be able to work not at Monday and also not Tuesday.
It is a small company in Germany. I work since some years here, longer than most employee, but it is not a guarantee for that I won't lose my job for that. The company seems above average tolerant for such events, but their patience surely has a limit. And feel I near this limit now.
Being in the IT, I could work also remotely, even on different trains. But it is not the custom of the company, and I not a boss to change that.
How to maximize my chance to not lose my job and to lose the least possible respect by my bosses?
Would it be better if I explain this situation? My this personal problem looks probably quite differently with the eyes of my boss.
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How to maximize my chance to not lose my job and to lose the least
possible respect by my bosses?
Call as soon as you can get through.
Tell your boss that a family emergency came up and you won't be there Monday or Tuesday.
Good luck.
answered 8 hours ago
Joe StrazzereJoe Strazzere
254k1307361050
Calling a boss, on his personal phone, at 23:00? It looks a little bit dangerous thing to me. My impression is that it would worsen the situation. Maybe tomorrow morning at 7:00?
– Gray Sheep
7 hours ago
4
@GraySheep - when I said "as soon as you can get through", I meant get through to work.
– Joe Strazzere
6 hours ago
8
Realistically, it's not going to make much difference to your boss if he finds out late on Sunday evening or early on Monday morning. In his shoes I'd prefer not to have my sleep interrupted though.
– Matthew Barber
6 hours ago
I'll call the Boss on his work phone which presumably would have a messaging feature. In that call state that you'll call him personally ASAP. In the personaal call minimum details on the nature of the emergency and focus on what you need to do at office. Do you need to have someone cover something, or do you need pass on some information, that sort of thing.
– MaxW
3 hours ago
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contact by you manager/boss by email/text. Tell him that there is a personal situation which requires your presence with your bride
call him/her in the morning
Don't be too specific on the details. If you don't ask for such things more often, then I would hope for the best.
answered 5 hours ago
SaschaSascha
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I live and work in Germany, and have been both boss and employee.
I would say that the best way to proceed depends on your boss. Every country is like this, but there is certainly still some xenophobia in Germany.
If your boss is friendly towards foreigners, then I would give him full disclosure. Tell him exactly what is going on.
If your boss is generally somebody that looks down on foreigners, then I would give him/her as little information as possible. Giving him information, such as the fact that you have a bride in another country will just fuel his/her fire, and give him more reason to dislike the situation. In this case, just say that you have an extremely important life or death family matter that must be dealt with immediately. In this case, we mean life or death of the baby, but do not tell the boss that.
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How to maximize my chance to not lose my job and to lose the least
possible respect by my bosses?
Call as soon as you can get through.
Tell your boss that a family emergency came up and you won't be there Monday or Tuesday.
Good luck.
answered 8 hours ago
Joe StrazzereJoe Strazzere
254k1307361050
Calling a boss, on his personal phone, at 23:00? It looks a little bit dangerous thing to me. My impression is that it would worsen the situation. Maybe tomorrow morning at 7:00?
– Gray Sheep
7 hours ago
4
@GraySheep - when I said "as soon as you can get through", I meant get through to work.
– Joe Strazzere
6 hours ago
8
Realistically, it's not going to make much difference to your boss if he finds out late on Sunday evening or early on Monday morning. In his shoes I'd prefer not to have my sleep interrupted though.
– Matthew Barber
6 hours ago
I'll call the Boss on his work phone which presumably would have a messaging feature. In that call state that you'll call him personally ASAP. In the personaal call minimum details on the nature of the emergency and focus on what you need to do at office. Do you need to have someone cover something, or do you need pass on some information, that sort of thing.
– MaxW
3 hours ago
add a comment |
How to maximize my chance to not lose my job and to lose the least
possible respect by my bosses?
Call as soon as you can get through.
Tell your boss that a family emergency came up and you won't be there Monday or Tuesday.
Good luck.
answered 8 hours ago
Joe StrazzereJoe Strazzere
254k1307361050
Calling a boss, on his personal phone, at 23:00? It looks a little bit dangerous thing to me. My impression is that it would worsen the situation. Maybe tomorrow morning at 7:00?
– Gray Sheep
7 hours ago
4
@GraySheep - when I said "as soon as you can get through", I meant get through to work.
– Joe Strazzere
6 hours ago
8
Realistically, it's not going to make much difference to your boss if he finds out late on Sunday evening or early on Monday morning. In his shoes I'd prefer not to have my sleep interrupted though.
– Matthew Barber
6 hours ago
I'll call the Boss on his work phone which presumably would have a messaging feature. In that call state that you'll call him personally ASAP. In the personaal call minimum details on the nature of the emergency and focus on what you need to do at office. Do you need to have someone cover something, or do you need pass on some information, that sort of thing.
– MaxW
3 hours ago
add a comment |
How to maximize my chance to not lose my job and to lose the least
possible respect by my bosses?
Call as soon as you can get through.
Tell your boss that a family emergency came up and you won't be there Monday or Tuesday.
Good luck.
answered 8 hours ago
Joe StrazzereJoe Strazzere
254k1307361050
How to maximize my chance to not lose my job and to lose the least
possible respect by my bosses?
Call as soon as you can get through.
Tell your boss that a family emergency came up and you won't be there Monday or Tuesday.
Good luck.
answered 8 hours ago
Joe StrazzereJoe Strazzere
254k1307361050
answered 8 hours ago
Joe StrazzereJoe Strazzere
254k1307361050
answered 8 hours ago
Joe StrazzereJoe Strazzere
254k1307361050
answered 8 hours ago
Joe StrazzereJoe Strazzere
254k1307361050
254k1307361050
Calling a boss, on his personal phone, at 23:00? It looks a little bit dangerous thing to me. My impression is that it would worsen the situation. Maybe tomorrow morning at 7:00?
– Gray Sheep
7 hours ago
4
@GraySheep - when I said "as soon as you can get through", I meant get through to work.
– Joe Strazzere
6 hours ago
8
Realistically, it's not going to make much difference to your boss if he finds out late on Sunday evening or early on Monday morning. In his shoes I'd prefer not to have my sleep interrupted though.
– Matthew Barber
6 hours ago
I'll call the Boss on his work phone which presumably would have a messaging feature. In that call state that you'll call him personally ASAP. In the personaal call minimum details on the nature of the emergency and focus on what you need to do at office. Do you need to have someone cover something, or do you need pass on some information, that sort of thing.
– MaxW
3 hours ago
add a comment |
Calling a boss, on his personal phone, at 23:00? It looks a little bit dangerous thing to me. My impression is that it would worsen the situation. Maybe tomorrow morning at 7:00?
– Gray Sheep
7 hours ago
4
@GraySheep - when I said "as soon as you can get through", I meant get through to work.
– Joe Strazzere
6 hours ago
8
Realistically, it's not going to make much difference to your boss if he finds out late on Sunday evening or early on Monday morning. In his shoes I'd prefer not to have my sleep interrupted though.
– Matthew Barber
6 hours ago
I'll call the Boss on his work phone which presumably would have a messaging feature. In that call state that you'll call him personally ASAP. In the personaal call minimum details on the nature of the emergency and focus on what you need to do at office. Do you need to have someone cover something, or do you need pass on some information, that sort of thing.
– MaxW
3 hours ago
Calling a boss, on his personal phone, at 23:00? It looks a little bit dangerous thing to me. My impression is that it would worsen the situation. Maybe tomorrow morning at 7:00?
– Gray Sheep
7 hours ago
Calling a boss, on his personal phone, at 23:00? It looks a little bit dangerous thing to me. My impression is that it would worsen the situation. Maybe tomorrow morning at 7:00?
– Gray Sheep
7 hours ago
4
4
@GraySheep - when I said "as soon as you can get through", I meant get through to work.
– Joe Strazzere
6 hours ago
@GraySheep - when I said "as soon as you can get through", I meant get through to work.
– Joe Strazzere
6 hours ago
8
8
Realistically, it's not going to make much difference to your boss if he finds out late on Sunday evening or early on Monday morning. In his shoes I'd prefer not to have my sleep interrupted though.
– Matthew Barber
6 hours ago
Realistically, it's not going to make much difference to your boss if he finds out late on Sunday evening or early on Monday morning. In his shoes I'd prefer not to have my sleep interrupted though.
– Matthew Barber
6 hours ago
I'll call the Boss on his work phone which presumably would have a messaging feature. In that call state that you'll call him personally ASAP. In the personaal call minimum details on the nature of the emergency and focus on what you need to do at office. Do you need to have someone cover something, or do you need pass on some information, that sort of thing.
– MaxW
3 hours ago
I'll call the Boss on his work phone which presumably would have a messaging feature. In that call state that you'll call him personally ASAP. In the personaal call minimum details on the nature of the emergency and focus on what you need to do at office. Do you need to have someone cover something, or do you need pass on some information, that sort of thing.
– MaxW
3 hours ago
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contact by you manager/boss by email/text. Tell him that there is a personal situation which requires your presence with your bride
call him/her in the morning
Don't be too specific on the details. If you don't ask for such things more often, then I would hope for the best.
answered 5 hours ago
SaschaSascha
8,22321638
add a comment |
contact by you manager/boss by email/text. Tell him that there is a personal situation which requires your presence with your bride
call him/her in the morning
Don't be too specific on the details. If you don't ask for such things more often, then I would hope for the best.
answered 5 hours ago
SaschaSascha
8,22321638
add a comment |
contact by you manager/boss by email/text. Tell him that there is a personal situation which requires your presence with your bride
call him/her in the morning
Don't be too specific on the details. If you don't ask for such things more often, then I would hope for the best.
answered 5 hours ago
SaschaSascha
8,22321638
contact by you manager/boss by email/text. Tell him that there is a personal situation which requires your presence with your bride
call him/her in the morning
Don't be too specific on the details. If you don't ask for such things more often, then I would hope for the best.
answered 5 hours ago
SaschaSascha
8,22321638
answered 5 hours ago
SaschaSascha
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SaschaSascha
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answered 5 hours ago
SaschaSascha
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I live and work in Germany, and have been both boss and employee.
I would say that the best way to proceed depends on your boss. Every country is like this, but there is certainly still some xenophobia in Germany.
If your boss is friendly towards foreigners, then I would give him full disclosure. Tell him exactly what is going on.
If your boss is generally somebody that looks down on foreigners, then I would give him/her as little information as possible. Giving him information, such as the fact that you have a bride in another country will just fuel his/her fire, and give him more reason to dislike the situation. In this case, just say that you have an extremely important life or death family matter that must be dealt with immediately. In this case, we mean life or death of the baby, but do not tell the boss that.
answered 5 mins ago
bremen_mattbremen_matt
1214
add a comment |
I live and work in Germany, and have been both boss and employee.
I would say that the best way to proceed depends on your boss. Every country is like this, but there is certainly still some xenophobia in Germany.
If your boss is friendly towards foreigners, then I would give him full disclosure. Tell him exactly what is going on.
If your boss is generally somebody that looks down on foreigners, then I would give him/her as little information as possible. Giving him information, such as the fact that you have a bride in another country will just fuel his/her fire, and give him more reason to dislike the situation. In this case, just say that you have an extremely important life or death family matter that must be dealt with immediately. In this case, we mean life or death of the baby, but do not tell the boss that.
answered 5 mins ago
bremen_mattbremen_matt
1214
add a comment |
I live and work in Germany, and have been both boss and employee.
I would say that the best way to proceed depends on your boss. Every country is like this, but there is certainly still some xenophobia in Germany.
If your boss is friendly towards foreigners, then I would give him full disclosure. Tell him exactly what is going on.
If your boss is generally somebody that looks down on foreigners, then I would give him/her as little information as possible. Giving him information, such as the fact that you have a bride in another country will just fuel his/her fire, and give him more reason to dislike the situation. In this case, just say that you have an extremely important life or death family matter that must be dealt with immediately. In this case, we mean life or death of the baby, but do not tell the boss that.
answered 5 mins ago
bremen_mattbremen_matt
1214
I live and work in Germany, and have been both boss and employee.
I would say that the best way to proceed depends on your boss. Every country is like this, but there is certainly still some xenophobia in Germany.
If your boss is friendly towards foreigners, then I would give him full disclosure. Tell him exactly what is going on.
If your boss is generally somebody that looks down on foreigners, then I would give him/her as little information as possible. Giving him information, such as the fact that you have a bride in another country will just fuel his/her fire, and give him more reason to dislike the situation. In this case, just say that you have an extremely important life or death family matter that must be dealt with immediately. In this case, we mean life or death of the baby, but do not tell the boss that.
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